"Be devoted to one another in brother love; give preference to one another in honor." -Romans 12:10
This is one is usually don't have a problem doing. It is stating, when you do things for others, do them for others, not for fame or some reward, or even bragging rights. Like for instance cleaning the house. I usually do it because i love my husband and he loves a clean house but recently i have been doing it so he will feel bad that i do so much for him. SELFISH!!! I have a problem with this right now.
The book states that selfishness is the opposite of love. That we should do things for others out of love. "When a husband puts his interests, desires and priorities in front of his wife, that is a sign of selfishness. When a wife constantly complains about the time and energy she spends meeting the needs of her husband, that is a sign of selfishness..."
Ask yourself these questions:
- Do you truly want whats best for your mate? Yes
- Do you want them to feel loved by you? Yes
- Do you believe you have their best interests in mind? Yes
- Do they see you as looking our for yourself first? No he knows my family comes before me.
WHATEVER YOU PUT YOUR TIME, ENERGY, AND MONEY INTO WILL BECOME MORE IMPORTANT TO YOU. IT IS HARD NOT TO CARE FOR SOMETHING YOU ARE INVESTING IN, ALONG WITH RESTRAINING FROM NEGATIVE COMMENTS, BUY YOUR SPOUSE SOMETHING THAT SAYS "I WAS THINKING OF YOU TODAY
Ok So i know i can do that but if he comes home tomorrow empty handed, i think i will scream. Seriously it will take all i have not to just walk out the door then. Because if he has nothing fr me that means he doesn't think this is serious or he really doesn't think of me during the day.
I was at Walmart so i bought him a fishing lure because he loves fishing and that area always reminds me of him.
Katie, there will be times when your husband gives you no reason to continue this book, but consider it instead a commitment to God. The God who gave the greatest gift to this wretched world.
ReplyDeleteIf you can do this for God and as an act of love for God (who has given us so much) then on those days when it feels so unrewarding, you can still feel blessed because you are not doing this for your husband, or yourself, but rather for God.
I still strongly recommend you watch the movie. It is called Fireproof and it is really a good story. It is a movie, not a "self help guide" for the book.
I love you, always.